I am re-reading a great book by Dr. Kathryn D. Cramer and Hank Wasiak. The book is Change the Way You See Everything. I’m in the section that talks about creating positive interactions/ relationships with others. Here is something that should make us all think:
“Research confirms that the tone you set (positive or negative) in the first seven seconds of any interaction determines the predominant tone for the remainder of the interaction. Start well, and you are more likely to end well – even in the face of challenging or disturbing interactions.”
Many years ago, I was having lunch with a friend who was going through a rough, personal time – an ugly divorce. As we talked, he poured out his heart to me – hurt, bitterness, anger, etc. It was real. And it was tough to listen to. He was so frustrated with the entire ordeal that at one point he said, “I feel like I need to be doing something right now. I feel caged up. My life isn’t moving forward. What do I do now?”
What do I do now?
We are several weeks into the Covid-19 disaster. The news is filled with daily reports of death and despair. Our world-wide economy is being more than constrained. Small business owners are watching what they fought so hard to create crumble right in front of them – and at no fault of their own.
People are losing their jobs and their security. I hear first hand of stories of despair and worry. It would be hard enough to lose a job, but during a time when government tells businesses to remain shuttered, new opportunities seem unreachable.
What do I do now?
This post is not meant to provide magic dust to sprinkle on your life. I write to you to give you hope. What is there to do when the rug has been pulled out from under you…
There are things you can do now. Things that will strengthen you. Things that will encourage you. Things that will prepare you for your next opportunity that will come.
- Stay connected. You’ve got friends/family members who care about you. Stay connected with them. The temptation is to become even more isolated than the world is now. Fight that urge. Call someone. Get a fresh perspective. Hear an encouraging word.
- Strengthen your mind. Even if you are not out of job, use this unique time to become better. Read a book that will make you stronger now than you were just a few weeks ago. I highly recommend reading The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday. I came across this title just a couple of weeks ago, and I am almost finished reading it. This book will inspire you. It will give you a quick kick in the britches. It will make you think. If not this book, find a book where you spend time investing in you now for your future opportunities. Or find an uplifting podcast. You will not regret it.
- Control your mind. What we say to ourselves dramatically determines how we navigate life. Be mindful to things you say to yourself. Dr. Shad Helmstetter has been writing about this for decades – his words and work will encourage you! Don’t roll your eyes at this. Your self-talk is far more powerful than you think. You can “re-program” your brain and make it work for you, not against you.
- Journal your journey. Multiple studies have shown that journaling is vital. But what you write is as vital. Take time to document what you are grateful for. Write down positive interactions you had on a particular day. Record questions you have and then follow up on learning the answers.
- Don’t neglect your spiritual life. From my perspective, this means spending time in prayer, worship, and meditation. When stress comes, we are easily knocked off our feet. Staying spiritually tuned is an essential grounding necessity.
- Be others-focused. When hard times come, it is natural to sit in a corner and lick your wounds. But find ways to do something for others. When we focus on others, we can more easily get out of the funk we are so easily entangled in.
Sure, there are things that are out of control. Don’t focus on those things. If it’s out of your control, then it’s a waste of your time mulling over it. Focus on what you CAN do, then do it.
As some of you know, I am one of the co-founders of First Fridays Fort Wayne. My brother and started this in 2017. First Fridays is a monthly leadership networking event where local leaders gather to hear another local leader share. Our topics are as diverse as our audience.
This week, I was interviewed by two great guys from our First Fridays Fort Wayne team in something we call “High 5”. Here is that interview:
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- There are athletes training right now for an Olympics event years from now.
- There are individuals planning right now to build relationships that will last.
- There are people who are working right now to lose weight and get healthy.
- There are high school students who are working hard right now in extraordinary circumstances to prepare for college entrance.
- There are scholars who right now are striving to earn that next degree that will propel their career.
What do all of these people have in common? They understand and are implementing the 3 principles I have laid out in my book, The Path to Promotion. The book does focus on helping someone advance in their careers. But there is so much more to that.
Are you wanting to move from where you are today to your next level? Read The Path to Promotion and begin putting the principles into practice.
These have been interesting days. A lot of us have run to frig too often, gotten reacquainted with our families, freaked out our pets for being home so much, missed talking with our neighbors, etc.
I’ve done all of that.
And I also finally finished a book project that I’ve been working on for a while. Introducing: The Path to Promotion!
I wrote this book initially for my staff who would often ask “How do I get to my next level/promotion? What do I need to do?”
In early 1998, I was was basically unemployed full-time only working a few part-time jobs here and there to make ends meet. I did land a job with my current employer. Once there. I worked the process I spell out in my book. I went from unemployed to Vice President in 5 years.
Now, I’m not giving you a magic formula. But I am giving you a tried and tested process – one that I’ve seen played out in other’s lives, too.
I would appreciate it if you would order my book. If you know someone who feels stuck in their current role or who wants to make a bigger “splash” at work, share this post with them. There is work involved. But as I say often, “it works when you work it.”
Don’t wait for someone else to make something happen for you and your career. Get on your Path to Promotion today! You can do this!
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We are all navigating in a strange new world with the news changing from day-to-day. We’ve all had to be nimble and flexible in ways we have not expected.
In a meeting I was in this morning, we were asked what we’ve learned with our team working remotely. My team is comprised of 3 different departments. Two are working from home and one is onsite right now. It has been different, but it has worked.
Here are some of the things I’ve learned from having a remote workforce:
Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!
- We are not setting up a lot of meetings, but we do have the option of using Skype for Business. It has worked as we use it.
- I’ve asked my leadership team to communicate when:
- a process is changing
- a procedure is changing,
- when they need help, etc.
- Missing the face-to-face interactions, we need to become very clear in our emails, instant messaging. Keep communication simple and focused.
- Pick up the phone and call to avoid miscommunication that can at times happen in an email.
- I have been reaching out to individual team members to check on them and their families, find out how remote is working for them, their challenges and how I can help.
- I send notes and tell team members more than ever how much I appreciate them.
- I visit our call center and “remote” team in another building to check in on them. I say “Thank you” a lot these days. Note to self: when this craziness is over, don’t stop saying “thank you” often.
Working remotely works.
- Introverts love it. Extroverts miss their team.
- But this has worked. It’s different, but it can work.
- Collaboration between workers and IT has been critical in making this happen in a secure fashion.
I’ve shared with my team that right now, it’s not business as usual, but it’s business unusual. And we are up to the task.
What have you learned?