On my drive into work this morning, I heard the following:
“Flawed people can do great things.”
The speaker went on to share an example of King David from the Bible. David was an incredible king. He fought and won many battles. He strengthened his kingdom. He had passionate followers. Bible said that he was a “man after God’s own heart.”
But King David was also flawed. Too often, he took matters into his own hands. He had a wandering eye that led him to seduce a woman and then later had her husband killed in battle. David suffered because of his flaws. But he also did great things in spite of his flaws.
Today, I am grateful for grace that sees my flaws but still allows me to be effective. I cannot ignore my flaws and shortcomings (there are many). I must get better. I must build on my strengths. I cannot make excuses for my flaws. But I must work to do great things. My family is counting on me. My team is counting on me.
I am not disqualified. Neither are you.
My boss just shared the following with our Lead Team. It is worth your time to read this. I’m not sure where he found this, but read it, let it sink in, and then let’s all do it.
But Enough About Me…
I sat in on a solid coaching session with a regional manager and two area managers while traveling last week.
Okay, to be honest, I sat near the session and not “in it”.
The hotel I was staying in was under construction and the temporary dining area was not very large.
I was given the one open table near three guys having dinner and talking shop.
Not having earplugs or a television close enough to focus on, their conversation became the soundtrack of my meal. Thankfully, the most senior guy in the group doled out some pretty good advice.
Beyond the nuts and bolts of their particular business (some type of manufacturing), there was a more general piece of advice he gave that had me smiling and trying to see the reactions from his mid-30-years old dinner mates.
He told them, “Don’t take this the wrong way, but I heard way too many complaints about First World problems in front of your teams today.”
As his dinner mates smiled sheepishly, he continued, “You guys are doing well. I know you work hard and believe me, I’m proud of our results. But your teams don’t need to hear about how much your kids’ private schools cost or how frustrated you are with the guys putting in your new pool.”
I will give him credit.
He made that point in a clear, yet non-scolding way.
As they joked around a bit about not wanting to sound like “that guy”, the senior manager put a nice ribbon on the subject.
He told them, “Look, sometimes the difference between the boss that you are inspired by and one that you resent is what he or she talks about most. If you are always talking about yourself, they see you as a ‘me first’ person.”
He continued, “If you are asking questions about their jobs, their families, their goals… they’ll walk through a wall for you because they know you are interested in their success…not just yours.”
I fought off the urge to lean over and high-five that senior manager.
Well, mostly because that would have been really weird.
Whether it is the employees working for you, the peers working with you or the customers you work for, how much of your conversations are centered on them?
Folks who focus their attention on others tend to attract more goodwill and success towards themselves.
Strive to be that person.
I have invested a couple of wonderful days here in Denver at the NACCAP annual conference on the campus of Colorado Christian University. I have met admission leaders from all over North America. I’ve listened to their stories. I’ve helped brainstorm on obstacles they face. I’ve learned so much about their work, their passion, and their dedication to helping students earn a college/university education.
I spoke at 2 seminars yesterday. My topics were: “Adding Value” and “Understanding Your Influence through Self-Development”. My sessions were full, and the participants shared great feedback with me immediately afterwards and then at mealtimes (I intentionally sat with different groups of leaders at each meal).
I am humbled by the written feedback I received. Here’s just a sampling:
“very inspiring and passionate speaker who really cares about developing leaders…” Kelly M.
“he is an excellent, amazing, and engaging speaker.” Angie N.
“incredible, authentic, inspiring, applicable…thank you!” Rachel G.
“this was an unexpected topic at the conference…I’m glad I attended…great, helpful, and out-of-the-box information!” Anonymous
“So practical!” Tim S.
These leaders were hungry to learn and to grow. They are making significant impacts on the lives of future leaders. I am grateful to have been a small part of this conference and to have met such quality people.
Tomorrow morning, I fly to Denver where I’ll be giving two presentations at the annual NACCAP (www.naccap.org) conference. I will be speaking on:
- “Right On” – working towards your “next level” opportunity while broadening your influence.
- Adding Value – discovering why this is so important and finding practical ways to do it.
I look forward to sharing, learning, and meeting the professionals at NACCAP in Denver!
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