I think one quality that has always attracted me to specific leaders is this: a heart for people.
My father is almost 89. He’s had a very rough last three weeks. He has been in the hospital and in a rehab facility. We were able to just bring him back to his apartment yesterday. Several times during these three weeks I have witnessed something.
He always takes time to talk with people. He’s always willing to help. He speaks words of encouragement. He asks about others. He smiles at people.
(Dad helping folks at his nursing home find someone – the day he got back to his apartment.)
Granted, physically he has been in bad shape for three weeks. But even during those times, he has found ways to try to brighten somebody’s day or to do something for someone.
(My Dad helping out his friend on a Sunday service at the rehab center)
Leaders demonstrate the ability to care for others. But it’s not something that they have to manufacture. It comes from their heart to another person’s heart. That is my dad. He has been such a great example to me.
(With some of his grandkids and 1 of his great grandkids.)
Several years ago, I wrote a little book primarily for my staff to help them understand this process. Here’s an under three minute video that summarizes these thoughts.
“Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better? Why hide deficiencies instead of overcoming them? Why look for friends or partners who will just shore up your self-esteem instead of ones who will also challenge you to grow?”
From Mindset by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D.
How I’ve spent my last couple of days to celebrate the season.
I’m very proud of my team at work. They adopted a family to provide Christmas gifts and necessities. Last night, we delivered the bounty to the single mom and her 4 children (all under age 9). It was great to provide presents, food, supplies, and beds (the children had been sleeping on the floor on air mattresses.
Have a Merry Christmas. Let’s all be grateful for the blessings we have.
- Set meaningful personal goals and work on them every day.
- Practice gratitude every day.
- Do random acts of kindness.
- Read inspiring, challenging books every day.
- Listen to inspiring podcasts.
- Follow impactful leadership blogs.
- Find and meet with a mentor.
- Mentor someone.
- Network with other leaders.
- Volunteer your time in your community.
- Do more than expected at work.
- Intentionally meet new leaders in your community.
- Write someone a personal note of appreciation.
- Say “please” and “thank you”.
- Open the door for others.
- Smile more.
- Listen more than you speak.
- Spend time with family and friends.
- Laugh – don’t take yourself too seriously.
- Develop positive self-talk.