When it comes to self-talk, we’ve discovered six common, yet toxic, beliefs that hold people back more than any others. Be mindful of your tendencies to succumb to these beliefs, so that they don’t derail your career:
Toxic Belief #1: Perfection = Success
Human beings, by our very nature, are fallible. When perfection is your goal, you’re always left with a nagging sense of failure, and end up spending your time lamenting what you failed to accomplish, instead of enjoying what you were able to achieve.
Toxic Belief #2: My Destiny is Predetermined
Far too many people succumb to the highly irrational idea that they are destined to succeed or fail. Make no mistake about it, your destiny is in your own hands, and blaming multiple successes or failures on forces beyond your control is nothing more than a cop out. Sometimes life will deal you difficult cards to play, and others times you’ll be holding aces. Your willingness to give your all in playing any hand you’re holding determines your ultimate success or failure in life.
Toxic Belief #3: I “Always” or “Never” Do That
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On my drive into work this morning, I heard the following:
“Flawed people can do great things.”
The speaker went on to share an example of King David from the Bible. David was an incredible king. He fought and won many battles. He strengthened his kingdom. He had passionate followers. Bible said that he was a “man after God’s own heart.”
But King David was also flawed. Too often, he took matters into his own hands. He had a wandering eye that led him to seduce a woman and then later had her husband killed in battle. David suffered because of his flaws. But he also did great things in spite of his flaws.
Today, I am grateful for grace that sees my flaws but still allows me to be effective. I cannot ignore my flaws and shortcomings (there are many). I must get better. I must build on my strengths. I cannot make excuses for my flaws. But I must work to do great things. My family is counting on me. My team is counting on me.
I am not disqualified. Neither are you.
Yesterday, my leadership team and I had lunch with Tim & Todd Baumann of Aunt Millie’s Bakehouse. Tim serves as the EVP of Sales and Todd is the Director of Continuous Improvement / Strategic Growth. I met Tim while standing in a 2 hour line during early voting. We talked about bread, Cubs baseball, and leadership.I later emailed him asking him to meet my leadership team.
I have taken my leaders outside of our office to meet, interact with, and learn from local entrepreneurs and business leaders. Aunt Millie’s has been in business in our city since 1901 and they do business all over the U.S. as overseas (Saudi Arabia, Dubai, etc.). The family who has been leading this company does so with passion, integrity, and great effectiveness.
We had an outstanding time with great conversations and shared insight. My leadership team asks wonderful questions and are very curious and eager to learn and grow.
Here are some of our take-a-ways:
- Creating a culture that lasts for generations takes commitment, consistency, and courage.
- I want to help create a culture that becomes a legacy at 3Rivers – where people love being here while serving our communities.
- Leadership matters– whether a company bakes bread or makes loans.
- It is worth getting better. Always.
- Serving others is a leader’s highest calling.
- “Be intentional”. None of us have all of the right answers however if your head and your heart is in the right place than great things are bound to happen.
- Build trust.
In our community, we have a rich history of successful leaders, entrepreneurs , and community investors. This exercise is proving to add value to my team, those we meet, and to me personally. My team becomes ignited through these experiences. We grow in our leadership journey as we work to always “lift our lids”.