Transformation requires work. We all know that. Years ago I read that to realize change, we need to start doing some things and stop doing others to get us to where we want to be.
Transformation requires these 2 “doings” – START and STOP
If you want to transform an area of your personal and/or work life, you will need to START doing something new, in different ways. Why? As I wrote last time, if you always do what you’ve always done, you will always get what you’ve always gotten. So, transformation requires that we START to do something new – the CHANGE.
If you want, for example, more energy, lose weight, and improve the overall sense of health in your life, you can START doing something new by:
But in order to improve your health, you will most likely need to STOP doing things that will hinder this goal:
So on this 2nd day of the new year, think about where you need transformation. Write it down. Next, create a 2-column list and write as headings START DOING and STOP DOING. Fill out each column. This list is not a wish list. It is a doing list. If you think you’ll waiver on this, share your list with a friend who can help with accountability (in fact, why not ask a friend or two to do this along with you).
We can tend to think of transformation as some sort of dramatic life event that will catapult us to a new level. Maybe in the movies, but in the real world, transformation takes planning, determination, work, and intention.
And it can be as simple as this:
START doing the things that will move you closer to what you want to be, achieve.
STOP doing the things that put up obstacles on the road to your transformation
Day after day…month after month…year after year it is the same. You keep doing the same things in your life and yet you wish things were different.
“Why can’t I lose weight?” “Why didn’t I get that promotion?”
“Why do I feel stuck financially?” “Why isn’t my relationship with my kids better?”
Deep down inside, we already know the answer. We have not seriously changed anything to help us realize our goals/dreams. We have not been transformed.
I hear this lament all the time from family and from coworkers. I’ve seen people struggle with “getting ahead” in so many arenas in life yet they keep behaving the same as they always have. They keep believing as they always have. They keep thinking as they always have.
Yet they expect different results.
How do I know this? I’ve had a lot of conversations with people about this. And I have personally struggled with this. We all have.
Why? Why have we all struggle so? Why can’t we seem to “get off the dime” and really experience change in our lives – change that we truly want to see happen?
“If you always do what you’ve always done…”
Our “doing” – our habits – have us right where we are. Right, our habits (a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up) have set the program by which we live our lives. We have so regularly practiced something…
…that it is now “settled”…it marks who we are. We don’t like it. We want to be different. But habits are “hard to give up”.
So what can we do? Note: the dictionary definition of a habit states they are hard to give up – not impossible. In other words, it is entirely POSSIBLE to change a habit to make it work FOR you and not against you.
Dr. Shad Helmstetter teaches that we can re-program our mind to think more positively by merely repeating new thoughts consistently.
“In logical progression, what we believe determines our attitudes, affects our feelings, directs our behavior, and determines our success or failure:
This works for both negative thoughts and positive thoughts. Both thoughts follow this progression.
So, if you want to transform how you think, for example, you have to change your programming – those thoughts which you allow into your mind.
The same is true for our health. If we eat unhealthy food, we will become unhealthy. A steady diet of junk food will not result in a healthy body. We were not created this way. “Garbage in, garbage out.”
So much has been written about habits. I would encourage you to read about habits, their power, and how you can truly make effective changes in your life. I recommend the following books:
The thoughts these authors share will change your life. They really will. But not by merely reading. It will be in the doing.
If you feel stuck…if you feel hopeless…if you struggle…if you are disgusted you are where you are…CHANGE YOUR HABITS, CHANGE YOUR LIFE.
TRANSFORMATION happens through effective habits. Jeff Olson, author of The Slight Edge, says that true change happens – not in huge dramatic moments – in the everyday effort of moving closer to our goals. More to come on this.
Look at your habits. Looks at your goals. If your current habits do not move you towards what you want, change them. Every day, change them.
There may be a thousand little choices in a day. All of them count.
Dr. Shad Helmstetter
The fear of failure is something we all deal with. Read this article to learn a simple rule that can help you overcome self doubt.
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In my last post, I introduced how team members can have confidence in building their company’s culture. I shared about those critical moments when an employee has to make decisions about how to respond to counter-cultural situations. The best course of action, in my opinion, is to do these 3 things as a matter of habit:
By protecting the culture I mean intentionally standing up for it. Let me give an example.
You are in the company’s lunch room. You hear one employee gossiping (assume negatively) about someone who is not present. Others are around listening and sometimes joining in. Others are doing and saying nothing.
At that moment, what can you do to PROTECT your company’s culture. You know what you are observing is NOT going build a healthy culture. You know what you are hearing is hurtful and not helpful. So what can YOU do?
In my opinion, you have the right – and responsibility – to approach the gossiper. Wait…what?!?! Yes, YOU have this right. But take the right approach:
Please note: this is NOT simple to do. Too often things get in the way of us making the right choice to protect our culture:
But your company’s culture is worth protecting and nurturing! Every time to PROMOTE, PRACTICE, and PROTECT your culture, you help build momentum.
And when momentum builds, it becomes the norm.
You help raise the standard.
You don’t settle.
You refuse to live to the lowest common denominator.
The culture becomes more alive.
You/We become the culture.
Next, I’ll share some practical ways to PROMOTE and PRACTICE the culture.
Last evening, I read a very good article in the Sept/Oct 2018 issue of the Harvard Business Review. The article, entitled “The Business Case for Curiosity” by Francesca Gino (Professor, Harvard), spelled out why curiosity is so important in our businesses and for our team members.
Prof. Gino defines curiosity as “the impulse to seek new information and experiences and explore novel possibilities“. As much as I value curiosity, it was sobering to read “although leaders might say they treasure inquisitive minds, in fact most stifle curiosity fearing it will increase risk and inefficiency“.
Prof. Gino speaks of two barriers to curiosity:
So how can a leader “bolster curiosity”? Prof. Gino lists 5 ways:
I am purposefully leaving out a lot of detail in this post. You should invest a small price to read this excellent article which can be found online here: https://hbr.org/product/the-business-case-for-curiosity/R1805B-PDF-ENG
Or better yet, subscribe to HBR here: Harvard Business Review subscription information
I have been reading the new book, The CEO Next Door, by Elena L. Botelho and Kim R. Powell. In today’s reading, I came across the phrase “become of detective.” The context of this speaks of when a leader is trying connect with their team, stakeholders, board members, customers, etc. Becoming a detective means to work to truly understand the other person’s perspective so great decisions can be made and meaningful directions can be set and navigated.
So what do the authors state as the key elements of becoming a detective?